“My hope is that this book will inspire everyone to tap into their own journeys of becoming and to share those stories with one another.”Michelle Obama
Who will you become? I recently finished Michelle Obama’s fascinating book, “Becoming”, for our alumni book club. The Washington Post does a good job covering key scenes in her memoir in their article, “For eight years, Michelle Obama watched every word. In her memoir, she’s done with that.” For me, the title “becoming” reflects a desire to constantly grow, evolve, and learn . She urges all of us to take action on our “becoming” by concluding:
There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And there is grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become.
I want to share a few quotes by Michelle with you and reflect on them because they really hit home. It’s going to get a bit “real” as her penetrating stories have got me riled about one story in particular…
A few days ago, I was upset as I was listening to my coworker’s story. She had severe bruises on her arm. Her boyfriend was drunk one night and punched her to demonstrate just how strong he was. He said some of the most awful things to put her down. Marriage is definitely off the table and she moved back home with her mom. Through her tears, she tried to reassure me that she was alright. I gently hugged her.
My hands involuntarily clenched into a fist as I was doing my best to control my anger. I absolutely don’t condone this violence towards her. I ponder on the sort of culture we currently live in for her to tell me she’s alright. Her tears tell me, “No, I’m miserable. Help me.” It was very difficult for me to find a shred of sympathy for this weak, insecure guy. I knew he was going through his own problems. His parents divorced and he felt trapped in his life, so he took it out on her. No excuse. I wonder if he will feel any regret for what he has done, but I feel like he’s desensitized to many things.
It is so important to find people to lift you up, who believe in you, and who will support you. As I read her book, I felt inspired by how she defined what power meant.
After my previous post, I thought these quote resonated with me. The “what-ifs” could stop you from taking action and making any sort of progress. There will always be people who don’t know anything about you who will say all sorts of things.
In response to:
- Fandango’s One-Word Challenge: Condone